We spend our lives telling ourselves to be more "us", to do what we want to do and to be who we want to be. Especially as a Life Coach, it's my job to tell you to think about the things that will help YOU become a happier and more content person and to brush aside those things that don't add value. And then we watch ourselves doing something we really don't want to be doing, and wonder why all those positive comments have gone to waste!
They've not. Despite making ourselves happier, more confident, more secure and more successful, we do a lot of things for those we love to prevent what could just be a short period of anger. arguments or other.
If you are in a relationship with someone who you truly love, you will sacrifice so much more than you possibly even mean to, if you think it's going to keep your loved one happy, or more so, prevent them from getting upset and angry. They may not even realise you are doing this, but our subconscious will think to protect our relationships before putting our own needs first.
It's a simple equation of working out whether you would upset yourself or your loved one more, and most of the time, we can explain to ourselves why we've done what we've done, where as the longer term effects of upsetting a loved one can hang around a lot longer.
So, when you're sitting with your loved ones friends, being the designated driver, talking about things you have zero interest in, look at is as banked favours rather than the bain on your life and those hours you will never get back again.
And if you then need to call in those favours, you can drop a gentle reminder of what you did do, remind your lover of how great you are, and how they can do the same for you, to keep the family peace with that understanding of how love can really find a way!
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