In order to attract others, we must first be attracted to ourselves

So many people I come across who are lonely, say the can't attract the right partner or even the right friends. Doomed to be alone forever, they complain about themselves in every possible way. They complain about their looks, their personality, living situations and anything else they can think of.

So I say to them, put yourselves in your suitors shoes, if you were them, and came across your own profile, complaining about every aspect of yourself, how attractive would you find that? How quickly would you move on to the next person and forget about you?

You cannot change the way people think, and first impressions are the ones we usually react to, so what you have to do is market yourself. Quite simply, sell yourself in a way that if you came across yourself you would be very interested in finding out more.

This is very easily done. Simply make a list of all the good things about yourself. If you think you don't have any, ask other friends and family. Look around yourself, look at what you do and what you've achieved. If you still can't think of anything ask yourself this:

Are you really the ugliest person on the planet, that not one person could find attractive?

Are you really so dull, that you don't have anything to talk about even with the postman?

Have you really NEVER done anything exciting in your whole life? Ever?

Have you never had anything to smile about EVER?

Once you answer these questions, you will see how easy it is to see the positives in yourself, and once you see the positives, you might even start to like yourself. Look in the mirror and smile at yourself. Pay yourself a compliment. Have you ever done that before? Tell yourself you're looking good, your skin is clear, you've lost a pound, you did so well at work yesterday. Once you start to do this, and get comfortable doing this, you will think correctly that others should be doing it too. Then you will realise that if you put yourself out there to look for a partner or a friend, you know you have the qualities that will attract the right person.

Go out there, loving yourself and others will love you too.